Thanks, Nicole ... I'll tackle it! I'll outline and I'd like to use Publishous on Medium to write to it, experiment, and then compile together ... but, yes, we had different expectations for different ages ... the ultimate goal, or concurrent, could be urging church families to get involved in fostering and adopting ... my wife is speaking with a woman in the church we attend who's a retired social worker. She says families get interested in a child to adopt but once the child acts out then they're no longer interested. We're seeing positive outcomes (and continued struggles esp with our 16 yr old g-daughter) but after 33 yrs we've seen real successes.